Maintain Back to School Routine After Holiday Divorce
Maintaining a school routine is difficult at the best of times for happily married or cohabiting couples. Throw a messy divorce, particularly one that has happened over the holidays, into the mix and it can be a recipe for disaster.
Emotions are high and everyone is on edge, and the smallest thing can often kick off a vicious argument, which nobody needs. While spouses or partners often feel like they are the worst affected by a split, they must not overlook the effect it can have on children and it is vital that the back to school routine is maintained.
When it comes to maintaining a successful co-parenting dynamic, however, it’s always best to adhere to the set routine and agreement, and always keep the lines of communication open.
Very often, arguments arise due to lack of communication, and an erratic or non-existent routine. If this is the case, it is definitely worth introducing a more rigid plan for all the family taking shared custody and split living arrangements into account.
Family Lawyers Perth based or otherwise, agree that families, especially recently separated ones, tend to have more successful co-parenting situations if both parties commit to the agreement already hammered out. This means that whether it is child support payments, living arrangements and time allocated - these should all be consistently observed. If one parent feels that they are the party giving more energy and effort to making the transition smooth for their children, then resentment can bubble up and very often end in an ugly row.
It’s important to remember that you both have your school going child(ren)’s best interests at heart. This new family situation is not of their making, and so you should do everything possible to maintain a ‘normal’ school life for them. When it comes to school events, never, ever pick an argument with your co-parent, especially in front of others. Wait for an appropriate time to share your views and do so calmly if at all possible.
In terms of the day to day, it’s useful for both parents to agree how to handle matters like, homework, what sort of lunches to pack, and what sort of rewards/discipline systems to put in place, so as to achieve continuity between both homes. Children need consistency and boundaries and if both parents are on the same page, then the child will be much happier.
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